"Nothing will ruin your 20's more than thinking you should have your life together already."
Ahhh the life of a millennial! You know, you can find so much on the internet describing how millennial's are this, and millennial's are that. But being in your 20 somethings can be so confusing. My sister (who is in that first picture with me in the collage) is currently a student in college and is studying to be a nurse (which is awesome!). Her major is child and adolescent development, and she took a class that describes the "20 something" years. It's called Emerging Adulthood also known as the "in-between age". This applies to young adults who are between the ages of 18-29.
Psychologist break down this period of life into 5 features (this is according to apa.org).
Age of identity exploration. Young people are deciding who they are and what they want out of work, school and love.
Age of instability. The post-high school years are marked by repeated residence changes, as young people either go to college or live with friends or a romantic partner. For most, frequent moves end as families and careers are established in the 30s.
Age of self-focus. Freed of the parent- and society-directed routine of school, young people try to decide what they want to do, where they want to go and who they want to be with--before those choices get limited by the constraints of marriage, children and a career.
Age of feeling in between. Many emerging adults say they are taking responsibility for themselves, but still do not completely feel like an adult.
Age of possibilities. Optimism reigns. Most emerging adults believe they have good chances of living "better than their parents did," and even if their parents divorced, they believe they'll find a lifelong soul mate.
I don't know about you but those 5 features are literally me! And lets be honest it can be draining! I am currently 26 years old and all of this still applies to me. As you get closer and closer to the end of your 20's the pressure becomes real. If you have not figured half of these things out or MORE people around you really start to question you or start trying to "fix" you by making suggestions about the type of job you should get, or where to move or what you need to do to get into a relationship or even try to hook you up with some one they know. Don't even get me started on how your social media can add to that pressure. Soon all your timelines are filled with friends and the people you graduated with getting married and having babies. It can all get really overwhelming.
But it shouldn't be. Your 20's are a time for you to really explore and find out who you are and what you want. You shouldn't be settled down and into a mundane routine. It's a time for you to see who your real friends are and even meet new ones. Explore places you've never been before and try things you never thought you would. It's also the perfect time for you to experience God and find out why He says 'I will never leave you nor forsake you'(Deuteronomy 31:6), or why they call Him the 'Prince of Peace'. Your 20's are a time for you to experience God like you never have before and really get to know Him. Find out who he says you are and who He calls you to be in this world.
So yeah, you might not know where you're moving to next, or what field of work you want to be in, or even when you might get into another relationship, but God says ' if you abide in me, and my words abide in you, ask whatever you wish and it will be done for you (John 15:7) So don't worry about where society, your friends or family are at in there lives, enjoy your "20 somethings" and...
Dare. To. Live
There is a time for everything, and everything on earth has it's special season. (Ecclesiastes 3:1)
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